Girl BFF vs Guy BFF

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       Honestly, tell me.. Which one do you prefer? Being friends with the opposite gender : BOYS or our very own species : GIRLS ? Hmmm.. According to lifestyle.allwomenstalk.com , there are 7 differences between male and female friendship.. And this is just a general statement.. I don't think it applies on everyone so let's just take it lightly and compare it to ourselves, k? 

1. EMOTIONAL ATTACHMENT

       I think girls have stronger emotional attachment than guys coz we usually bond with sharing secrets and do things on a really personal level, right? In contrary, guys prefer to avoid these stuff and bond more care-freely.

2. ARGUMENT

        Don't most girls have really really long fights and even if they decide to bury the hatchet, they may still keep grudges? Sooo damn complicated! And not to mention, they are verbal fights which are much more hurtful and painful than physical ones. Meanwhile, boys actually have way shorter fights than us because they would just throw a few punches and act as if nothing happened the next day.. Man, how do they do it? I am sooo curious..

3. PARTNERSHIP

       I think it is actually true that boys find friends who actually share the same interests with them and they can bond with them easier and faster. For instance, the boys from my class (the weird guys from the pic above ^ ) seems to bond more quickly as they play Clash of Clans and FIFA together.. Hmmm.. WE, girls on the other hand, will look for someone who we think we can share same emotions and bond emotionally. I don't know which kind of partnership lasts longer but I think girls' take a longer time to actually establish the sisterhood. Hmmm.. Is that really the case?

4. DEPENDENCY

       We LOVE having our friends close to us and would be green with envy when our close friends have new friends. As if we feel we will get less attention and love from their besties. Well, at least that is the case for some of us... hehehe..*Haachuumm.. However, boys practices more freedom in socializing and are independent in their relationships. I believe they don't really mind not being in contact with each other for long period of time. Like my eldest brother who have tons of friends and does not seem to care much if they lost contact but if they ever reconcile again, it does not seem like a big deal to him.. It shows how guys are very care-free in relationships, right right?

5. INSULTS & HUMOR

       Seriously.. Girls are a lot more sensitive than boys so, we reprimand ourselves from insulting and using violence as a way of expressing our friendship and sense of humor. We don't exactly find it funny or amusing to insult or prank others much as we are a whole lot more sensitive and respect for us is like respecting our weaknesses and not nag on it.. Hmmm.. Really?? Anywayyyyy, guys are the total opposite of us, girls because they like to tease and insult each other and test each other's dominance. They get into fights and takes violence as part of their humor. It's like punches and vulgar words are nothing but amusement for them.. Welll, not for us.. Not for me much..

6. INTIMACY

       "The more, the merrier." That's what guys believe in socializing.They really do go around with big circle of friends. I have friends who carpool with their friends.. Like 7 guys in a small Kancil.. Can you imagine the big, bulky guys cramping in one small car? Personally, I have done it multiple times but we are girls.. We have smaller body figures than them.. So, okayy laa.. And they prefer to hang out in big packs and have an easy bond but don't mistake it to be weak. It does not really matter if it does not seem strong on the surface but I am pretty sure it is as strong as diamond beneath the surface.. PLUS! These bonds might be stronger than the ones we have with girls. Girls however, prefer to keep their circle of friends smaller and believe it will be stronger by doing so... Girls really do have the tendency to mingle in small group of friends and build a strong relationship that way.. I don't know if it implies on everyone but to most of us it may be true, righttttt? Oh well, I guess it is the mentality set by our own society.. 

7. FLAWS

       Male friendships are usually affected by their competitiveness among others. They love to compete with each other superficially, and is usually on another whole level from the girls'.They are like sooo competitive and can go on it over and over again. I always watch TV dramas where the hot, buffed, six-packed guyS fighting for that ONE lucky girl like there is no other girl on Earth anymore... Competitive much ! Hahaha.. However, girls tend to be judgmental towards each other and get really biased with the ones whom they dislike. It usually ends up tearing people mentally. It is really a characteristic every girl has.. I am sure of it.. Be it a lot of just a bit.. Girls are just perceptive of others and they are competitive in a way which they want to be a better girl in front of other people.. 

       So, after reading all of these, which one do you prefer? Guy friends or girl friends? Hehe.. it is just a point of view.. And we honestly, do not have to choose between these two genders coz every each of it has its own pros and cons.. What is important is that we have friends whom we can be our own selves when we are with them. Friends that are there to help us when we are in need and to celebrate with us when we in joy. 

Love,

Rahimah